How I Overcame Parenting Challenges To Raise Godly Kids

Discover how Esther tackled parenting challenges and used faith-based strategies to raise godly kids. Her journey offers valuable insights for every parent seeking guidance.

My Journey with Parenting Challenges

My name is Esther. I am a mother of three boys. My first son is 21 years old, my second is 16 years old, and my last born is 9 years old. I have also raised my nephew, who is 13 years old, since his birth because his mother died during childbirth.  

My parenthood journey has taught me that raising children is filled with surprises. There is no manual for parenthood because every child has a different character. I started this journey years ago, and it has not been easy, but by God’s grace, I have learned to take it one day at a time.  

I have come to love parenthood, and that is why I decided to start a teenage mentorship program where I try to help teenagers in their journey to adulthood.  

My nickname is Mamayao, which means “their mother “ because I take them all as my children. I started working with teenagers in 2012. It’s now 11 years and still counting.  

Understanding Parenting Challenges During Adolescence

When children reach adolescence, parents often face many parenting challenges as their children’s behavior and physical appearance change. Here’s what I’ve observed during this stage:

• Rapid Growth: Adolescents experience significant physical changes.
• Mood Swings: Hormonal changes can cause unpredictable emotions.
• Value-Based Attitudes and Behaviors: How they respond depends on the values instilled in them during their childhood.
• Attraction to the Opposite Sex: This can be a confusing time as they explore their feelings.

The biggest parenting challenge during this stage is the impact of peer pressure. Teenagers want to feel accepted and often try to assert their independence, especially from their parents. 

How I Addressed These Parenting Challenges with Love and Faith

One crucial lesson I’ve learned is that teenagers are fragile, especially in today’s world, where they are exposed to so much more than we were as kids. Parenting challenges can feel overwhelming, but I found that raising my kids in the ways of God provided a strong foundation for them.

8 Strategies for Overcoming Parenting Challenges

1. Pray for Them and Teach Them to Prioritize God

The most effective way to overcome parenting challenges is to commit your children to God through prayer. Teach them to rely on God in all they do. This will guide their choices and behavior, even when you’re not around.

2. Lead by Example

Your children are watching you. If you want them to grow up with strong values, demonstrate those values yourself. For example, if you want them to avoid harmful habits, you need to model that behavior.

3. Listen More, Expect Anything, and React Less

One of the greatest parenting challenges is learning to listen. Teens will test boundaries and sometimes surprise you with their actions. Instead of reacting harshly, take the time to understand their perspectives.

4. Avoid Comparisons and Encourage Growth

Never compare your children to others, as this can lead to feelings of inadequacy. Allow them to make mistakes and learn from them, but be there to guide them back on the right path.

5. Trust but Verify

Don’t overtrust them blindly. If someone reports something about your teenager, take time to investigate before defending them. Teenagers can surprise you, and it’s important to balance trust with awareness.

6. Be a Friend and Confidant

One way to navigate parenting challenges is to maintain open communication. Create an environment where they feel safe to express themselves, and they will be more likely to come to you with their problems.

7. Allow Them to Take the Lead Sometimes

Teenagers are exposed to more ideas and creativity than previous generations. Give them opportunities to lead and express their creativity, and support their God-given talents and gifts.

8. Discipline with Love and Guidance

Discipline is necessary, but it should be done with love. Provide guidance and be willing to listen, helping them understand the consequences of their actions.

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Final Thoughts: Overcoming Parenting Challenges with Faith

For the past 11 years, I have applied these principles in both my mentorship program and my own parenting journey. Despite the many parenting challenges, I’ve witnessed the positive growth and transformation in the young lives I’ve been privileged to guide. As Proverbs 22:6 reminds us, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he grows up, he will not depart from it.”

This verse has been my anchor through all the parenting challenges I’ve faced, and I hope it can serve as a guide for you as well. Remember, raising godly kids is a journey that requires patience, love, and reliance on God. SHALOM.

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