Before You Share That News, Read This First
As we begin the second half of the year, I’ve been thinking about the progress I want to make in my personal life and with the Bold Daughters brand by the end of 2025.
I’m trusting God for a small milestone. It may seem small, but it means a lot to me. I’ll share it when it happens.
So recently, I was chatting with my big sister (we talk a couple of times a day), and I was going on and on about it. She stopped me mid-sentence and said something that really stuck. “As excited as you are about this goal, be careful how much you share.”
It came from a good place; I can tell you for a fact that she’s been one of my biggest cheerleaders.
Wueh! I felt some type of way. I mean, I wanted to go on and on but had to keep quiet. Still, like I said, I know it came from a good place. She’s my mentor, and she knows a thing or two.
She reminded me how, sometimes, when we’re super excited about our goals, we end up oversharing. And it’s true—when something lights you up, you just want to tell someone!
The more we share, the more pressure we put on ourselves. When things don’t move as fast as we hoped, it’s easy to get frustrated. Then we feel like we have to make something happen, just so it doesn’t look like we didn’t have enough faith in the first place.
This can lead to discouragement.
Worse still, things can go south quickly when your dreams land on the wrong ears.
In hindsight, this was confirmation for me.
A few Sundays before, we had a visiting preacher, Rev Rhonda Collier, who shared a message that hit differently; her vibe and choice of words just took it to another level. Her teachings made me think twice about who I give access.
She particularly shared about Samson and how he was appointed to fight battles. He had this God-given strength. However, the enemy was unhappy and could not take him down from a distance. He had to get close to him.
And guess who shows up? Delilah. Acting like a friend. One moment, she’s close; the next, she knows his secret—and boom—he’s powerless.
She didn’t come with a sword. She came with questions and attention that led Samson to tell his secrets.
Samson had the strength to tear down city gates and fight armies, but he didn’t guard his secret. He confided in someone who wasn’t truly for him, leading to his downfall in a couple of ways.
First, it cost him his strength, and he went from untouchable to completely vulnerable. He didn’t even realize it until it was too late.
Two, he lost his vision, literally and figuratively. Yes, he lost his physical sight, but long before that, he had already lost his sense of direction.
He couldn’t see the danger in front of him, the intentions behind Delilah’s questions, or the slow drift away from his purpose.
Whew. That hit hard.
The big lesson?
Before you share anything, be mindful of who gets your ear, and vice versa, especially if the timing isn’t right.
The loud attacks don’t always break you and sidetrack your goals.
Most times, it’s the quiet access you gave too freely as you told others about your goals and early wins.
So here are the powerful truths from Rev Rhonda’s sermon that I am carrying with me as I step into the last six months of the year 2025:
- Lately, I have been learning to commit things to God in prayer before I make any moves.
- I now realize that not every breakthrough or struggle needs to be shared with the world— some are between me and God.
- I have started choosing silence— not everything needs a response.
- I am being more intentional about who I let into my inner space— not everyone needs full access.
- Above all, I am reminding myself to do the right thing, even when no one is watching; for me, it is about staying true to who I am
Watch the full sermon by Rev. Rhonda Collier, where she unpacks the powerful lesson on guarding your vision, especially before you share.
What is one thing you are carrying in the second half?
Until then, remain blessed
Maggie
Women Empowerment Coach
